Friday evening when Dusty picked up the kids the teacher that was in Max's room mentioned that they had materials for Max's biting but that she isn't the regular teacher and doesn't know where they are so we'll have to get them on Monday. Dusty was even more confused because there were no "incident reports" in his bin which is what we get whenever Max bites - so he didn't even bite that day.

So today when I dropped the kids off I talked to Max's teacher and asked for the paperwork and if she could explain to me what exactly is going on because we didn't get any good information. Now I realize it is Monday morning and no one is functioning at 100% but seriously? I was so disappointed in that conversation. She didn't even have a plan as to what they will be doing! Apparently the owner gave her the materials to pass on to me (general information - obviously they don't know me and all the research I've already done) and they wanted to inform me that since there has been 6 incidents they now need to work on the issue.

Oh? And also? The kids are old enough for them to start telling the parents which kids were involved in an incident if parents are complaining. Now I don't know if there are parents complaining, I mean that wasn't at all explained well, but I honestly don't care about that part as I'd also be complaining if Max was getting bit a lot. I don't like that it was mentioned because I don't know if it was supposed to be information to make me feel bad, if it was a threat, or just because she wanted me to know. I mean, we've been trying to get them to work on his biting since he was just over a year old - two other classrooms ago - so it isn't like I'm not aware there is an issue!

The worst part of this all is that the last time Max bit according to our paperwork, was last Tuesday. So that means it took them a week to even get any paperwork to me and on top of that they don't even have a firm plan in place to help curb Max's biting issue. I'd understand if they were like, "We're going to try this and if it doesn't work we're going to try that" but instead I got, "Well this teacher suggested this and I don't know, maybe."

Yes, I've already sent an email to the administrator asking for a parent teacher conference; we need to discuss the issue and work out a legitimate plan to use both at home and daycare. Also, please don't think I'm trying to blame them for Max's issue because I'm not. I'm aware of it. I'm happy that daycare has finally stated there is a problem and will work with us to try to curb this. I'm just frustrated at how unorganized it has been for them to try something as this isn't a new issue and I can't imagine he is the first child to bite in the 6 years they've been open.

I feel I should also explain this to protect Max from sounding like a real bully. He bites on average 1-2 times a week, so he isn't using his teeth every time he gets frustrated. His teacher also pointed out that when he bites they usually become aware of the incident because both children are crying - Max usually is crying harder then the child that was bit. So he knows what he is doing is wrong and we both believe that he just loses control and then becomes aware of it after the fact. So I honestly believe that once we have a plan in place it will help him for those times he loses his cool. I just wish they would have had that plan in place before letting us know they were finally going to do something.

The joys of parenting!